单身 / Single

每年过年都要重复同样的话（赶快找个男朋友），同样的动作（礼貌的向他们笑一下）。 有男朋友的就被问什么时候要结婚，结了婚的就什么时候要生孩子。听了当然很烦，但有时候想想，大家也只是找些事聊聊。不常见面的亲戚除了这些，还要聊什么? 有时候见到有了男女朋友很久的朋友，我也会不由自主的想问“什么时候结婚啊？”

Every Chinese New Year, the same talks (quickly find a boyfriend), same action (politely nod and smile) are being repeated. If you have a boyfriend, you’ll be asked when are you getting married, if you are married you’ll be asked when are you having a baby. It’s not something that we’d like to hear. But sometimes, I thought, they were just trying to start a conversation. Some relatives don’t meet often, what could we chat about besides these? Sometimes when I see a friend who has got a boyfriend/girlfriend, I tend to want to ask the same question “When are you getting married?” too.

还是单身就还是单身。 单身最可怜的不是还是单身，而是要回答很多没有答案的问题。 为什么还单身？ 为什么不找个男朋友？你不知道你父母担心吗？

Being single is just that, single. The worst thing about being a single is not that you are still single, but having to answer questions that have no answers. Why are you still single? Why aren’t you looking for a boyfriend? Don’t you know your parents worried about you?

你认为有答案吗？

Do you think there’s an answer to those questions?

找到了你的另一伴， 恭喜你。 可是不是每个人都可以找到另一伴的。

If you’ve found your other half, congratulations. But not everyone will find their other half.

我的生命中，也曾经深爱过，曾经伤痛过，曾经，变成了过去。那一段不能说的痛，那一段几乎崩溃的日子，独自承受的日子。。。我以为，就这样了。。。终于, 有一天，放下了。决定放下后，意外的容易。。。现在回想起，只觉得自己很傻。轰轰烈烈的爱情里，甜蜜的，痛苦的，让它们随时间淡去。那些挥之不去的，把它们都深锁在内心深处，不去触碰。我做得很好，把它们都锁得很好。

In my life, I had been deeply in love, I had been deeply hurt, it’s all history now. The unspeakable pain, the days I almost fell apart, the days I suffered and cried alone.. I thought, that was it, that was my life… Eventually, one day, I let it go. It was surprisingly easy once I decided to let it go. I feel silly remembering the time. The sweet memories, the painful memories, will fade away as time goes by. Those that persist, I will lock them deep in my heart, and keep it away. I’ve done a very good job, I’ve locked them well away.

庆幸着，没有眷恋。 也庆幸，那些痛，终于过去了。 我的心已经有了裂痕。 我把它补得很好，可是疤痕还是在的。我并不会拒绝感情的来临，但是要去主动寻找，实在不容易，也没什么剩余的力气去做了。 要重新认识一个人，是很累的。一段感情，总会吵架的，那也是很累的。

I feel fortunate, that I didn’t look back. And I feel fortunate that those pains are now in the past. There’s a crack in my heart, I’ve mended it well, but a scar is inevitable. If there comes love, I will not close the door to my heart. But if you’re asking me to actively go look for love, that’s something not easy for me to do now. I have not left with much strength to do so. It’s tiring, getting to know a complete stranger. There will certainly be fights in any relationship, and it’s tiring as well.

有谁是真真正正选择单身？那些说是的，大概只是在欺骗自己。 谁不想有一个人陪着？ 单身不是我的选择，但是没有另一伴，不代表就不能好好的活， 不代表就不能活得很充实，不代表就不能活得很快乐。快乐是自己找的，自己给的。快乐也不是只能从男女朋友身上找来的。

Is there anybody voluntarily choose to be single? If someone say yes, he/she is probably lying to himself/herself. Who wouldn’t want to have someone to spend your life with? Being single is not my choice, but not having the other half, doesn’t mean I can’t live well, doesn’t mean I can’t live life to the fullest, doesn’t mean I can’t be happy. Happiness is something you have to find it yourself, something you give it to yourself. And happiness doesn't only come from a boyfriend/girlfriend.

我知道自己老大不小了，但是没有就没有，难道就要我去抛绣球招亲？我不愿意逼自己去参加社交活动，我知道那没什么，但是我就是不喜欢。如果我很紧张自己后半辈子会寂寞，我会去的。可是我觉得现在这样也没什么不好啊。为什么就不能尊重我的这种生活？

I know I am not young anymore, but I don’t have a boyfriend means I don’t have a boyfriend, don’t tell me I have to choose a husband from a group of men by throwing an embroidered ball to them, like in the ancient time? I don’t want to force myself to join social events, I know it’s nothing and common but I just don’t like it. If I am anxious and worry that I’ll be lonely for the rest of my life, I will do so. But I feel that it’s not such a bad thing being the way I am now. Why can’t people just respect my life and stop nagging?

人生不能少的，是亲情和友情。 没有爱情，还是可以活得很好，很开心的。

The things that one can’t live without in life, are love from your family and friendship. One will be able to live well and happy, even when not having love from the opposite sex.

Osama dead

Osama has finally been killed. Justice!! But the war against terrorist does not end here of course. And people need to be alert in case they retaliate with more attacks.

When I think back the 911 attack, I still would have tears in my eyes. This morning I was listening to BBC radio. They played witnesses' cries at the scene... It was terrifying to hear, even after so long... And I had tears in my eyes hearing those....

The world is a sad sad world... And earth would be better without human.

Teambuilding

We Sales & Marketing dept had a teambuilding session with Technology Dept. First time for me~ We had more girls than guys, 2 other guys came later. The dark green shirt is our intern.

Charles, the "teddy bear" of Infineum. LOL. He is a very very funny and comical guy. Here he watches as the ball rolls into the goal instead of stopping it. hahaha.

My leg and my colleague's leg : one white one so brown! So funny.

I laughed until my stomachache. It was so funny with all the pushing and grabbing, there became no rules already!

See all the grabbing!

And pushing! I didn't know I can play so rough too! So funny.

Charles playing funny.

It was the first time I ever played soccer. It's quite fun! The next day we were aching like crazy..
Everybody~

See the scracth!

And the blueblack (bruises)!! LOL..................

My shoes that played football with me for the first time!


Afterwards we went karaoke. Me and teddy bear Charles.

My colleagues and an intern on the right.





Me and my colleague Cynthia~

It was soooooo much fun today. Hope we always have teambuilding. hahahahah..

Why do African people have longer limbs?

W.O.W. I have always wondered, why do African people have longer arms and legs. I typed the question in google and voila. There is a scientific explanation for it : Allen's rule.

Allen's rule

Nature never failed to amaze me.

Quote:

In cold climates, the greater the exposed surface area, the greater the loss of heat and therefore energy. Animals in cold climates need to conserve as much energy as possible. A low surface area to volume ratio helps to conserve heat.

In warm climates, the opposite is true. An animal will overheat quickly if it has a low surface area to volume ratio. Therefore, animals in warm climates will have high surface area to volume ratios so as to help them lose heat.

In a nutshell, it simply means there is a ratio between body surface to body mass. For example, Fur or Tutsi people of Africa release body heat more readily because their ratio is high. However, Eskimos and Inuit have a lower ratio and therefore retain body heat.

The Inuit people live and hunt within the Arctic Circle. The sub-zero temperatures encountered in the Arctic environment mean that heat conservation is essential. A short, squat body shape will help retain body heat.

The Maasai people live primarily in Kenya and north Tanzania. The equatorial temperatures in this environment mean that heat loss is highly beneficial. A tall, long, body shape will help get rid of body heat. (The use of the word "tall" here is somewhat misleading. It is not necessarily height that is a factor as it is relatively longer, leaner limbs and a lean frame which are most appropriate according to this rule. Basically, size is not the main factor, which would be Bergmann's Rule, but shape.)

Unquote.

Which one is nicer?

Anyone out there? Please tell me which one appeals to you more?
The blue one? or the brown one?

One month after LASIK

I am happy :D

Today was my last visit to Dr Lee. Everything's good, except 25deg astigmatism on my left eye. But the lady said this kind of degree comes and goes. True enough, because I see perfectly fine outdoor in bright day light. Not so good indoor. Some days it's good some days it's not.

I did not experience ANY tearing after the surgery, did not have dry eye AT ALL. I am so darn blessed!!!! :D hahahahah.... I can't help kept smiling after I left the LASIK centre. haha~

My hope now is of course this perfect vision remains as long as it can.

Oh by the way, Dr Lee sent me an email thanking me for the Thank You card I sent him. I attached my namecard in the card, very 有心机ne~~~~ wahahahah. I think he felt "obliged" to reply since I attached my namecard there. wahahahahahhaha. and it worked. kekekekeke. So happy to receive his reply. It's just some simple gesture from both sides, but it makes one happy! In his reply he thanked me for taking the time to write and sent the card. It was very heart warming, he said. But he didn't mention anything just now when I saw him. heheheh. Anyway, his reply is enough for me. :)

And er, happiness, has its price you know.

I am in a good mood today after today's last visit to Dr Lee. The side effect of good mood : a hole in my wallet........................ lol..

Disappointing of Malaysia

Look at this video. A Malaysian UMNO politician said they don't need the votes from Chinese and Indian. Fine. We won't vote for you then. Arrogance never serves anyone well.



I am UTTERLY disappointed with Malaysia. They are getting more backwards as time goes by. Their thinking NEVER improved. Someone I know just denounced his Malaysian citizenship. That tells you something.

I am so voting for the opposition in the next election, even if the one running the election is an idiot.

Dream comes true!!!!!

Went to Class 95's Retrolicious concert on 9 Oct 2010. Oh my god, I never thought I'd live to see 3 of my biggest idols : Johnny Hates Jazz♥, Debbie Gibson♥ and Rick Astley♥♥♥♥♥!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ♥♥♥♥♥!!!!!

I was standing pretty close, but should have gotten closer. I almost couldn't see them. Luckily I was wearing my high heel. Although it hurt like hell afterwards. But it was worth it!!! I walked with my naked feet as soon as the concert was over. I walked all the way to carpark. LOL.. people must be wondering, maybe thinking my high heel has broken. But who cares? lol....

It is SO SO SO incredible!! I never even dream to see these biggest stars of the Eighties!!!! Oh my God. Recently I've fulfilled some of my "wish to see" things. I am so grateful. I love living in Singapore! Where all these are possible. Even though I don't have a boyfriend now, which is flawed, but I'm pretty happy with my life now. And I am so grateful ;) All these little things in life, makes me happy. But being able to see my idols is not a "little thing", it's a HUGE event in my life! WOHOA!!!!

Here are the videos :
Johnny Hates Jazz

So happy to listen to "I don't wanna be a hero" and "Don't let it end this way" and "Shattered Dreams". wahhhhhh, nice~

Debbie Gibson

She was fabulous! and sexy! She's still very beautiful! She's 40 this year.

And.... drum beating.... ggggrrrrrr...... RICK ASTLEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I slept with a smile that night ^_^ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ Listening to him, made me fall in love with him all over again. I started listening to his songs since I was in primary school! Oh my god. And he was incredibly funny!! ♥ Love the guy!! ♥ And he sounds the same, his voice still very very.... ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

Ahhhh... what a fantastic concert, what a wonderful night ^_^

Lasik!!!

I had lasik surgery yesterday! 30th September 2010! Today is the first day after surgery. How liberating!

I was so nervous before the surgery. I was worried that I can't open my eyes to get myself home like some of my colleagues said... even thou my brother was with me but it's troublesome if I cannot open my eyes. But in the end, nothing to worry about. And I could open my eyes. There was no pain during the surgery. Perhaps a little discomfort about 2 hours after the surgery. Not sure was it pain (minor) and was it because of the sleeping pill taking effect (after 2 hours??). I felt uncomfortable at that time. But as soon as I got home I went to sleep.

During the surgery, there's one part where the eye cannot see anything, after the doctor put a suction cup onto the eye. And then the machine will create the flap. It felt like I was in sci-fi movie. The machine has a gentle female voice announcing : 25seconds.... 20seconds.... 5seconds.... And the my doctor's voice was reassuring as well, even more gentle than the machine's female voice. LOL... Btw, my doctor is Dr Lee Sao Bing, from Shinagawa. He is very nice, and very polite.

When I woke up 2hours later, the discomfort was gone. Vision is still blurry and hazy but that's normal. And I see halo at night. Dr said it'll take 3, 4 months for it to go away.

I slept early on the day of surgery. The next day, heaven! I can see clearly ! Still a bit hazy but better than first day. And it's normal. I hope the halo will go away soon. And I pray there won't be regression....

♫♪ I can see clearly now, the rain is gone ♫♪
♫♪ I can see all the obstacles in my way ♫♪
♫♪ Gone are the dark clouds that had me blind ♫♪
♫♪ It's gonna be a bright (bright), bright (bright)Sun-Shiny day. ♫♪

Positive impact

Today, is a great day.

I have a dear girl friend, who is very capable but she couldn't "see" it herself. Probably the result of a long relationship with a mean boyfriend - it drowned her confidence level. She lacked confidence, big time. We've been emailing each other more than going out together, for various reasons. We've known each other for about 10 or 11 years. We started emailing each other since er... 5, 6 years ago? I forgot. (Hey, T, how many years have we been emailing each other? haha..)

She is a very nice girl. But she loved her boyfriend more than herself. It's fine if it's a doting boyfriend but sadly it's not. That boyfriend killed her confidence. Whenever I can, I always tell her to be confident, to love herself first. Just like in the plane, when accident happens, take care of yourself first before attending to your kids or others. Love yourself, only then you'll gain your confidence.

Today, is a great day. In her email to me today, I saw a change in her. She too saw the change in herself. She's more confident now. I was actually a little surprised to see how she handled the conversation between she and her very-mean-evil-hearted colleague. She stood her ground. She did not give in. And I was so proud of her. It's like watching your little sister finally grown up. Believe it or not, I was touched when I read how she handled the matter. She changed.

She said to me it was me who taught her to be optimistic, to think positively about herself. I am glad that I was able to contribute a little in building up her confidence. It feels good to have a positive impact on your dear friend's life, even if a small impact.

My friends, let's work together, to become a better person each day :)

Resorts World

Long overdue photos. These were taken during CNY. CNY lunch for our department, at Chinois, at Hotel Micheal, Resorts World.

This is the tastiest "yu sang" I have ever ate!!!!! Their sauce is a bit sour, it's just sooo sooo soooo yummy!!!

The staffs there are all very beautiful. This lady is from China without a doubt.
The staffs in this restaurant are very courteous. But just last week my colleagues and I went to one of Resort World's hotel, met up the sales lady about our company event. SHe's very young, just graduated it seems. I don't know about her position as my other colleague liaise with this lady. And boy RW's people are arrogant. Their attitude sucks. The girl don't know much about Universal Studio's promotion, my colleague said to her "Do you want to have some of the information I have then?" That's a good one! ha! In the way, we decided not to hold the event there.





This was taken during CNY so there're no crowds yet.

This statue is placed outside the casino. My colleague said people are saying that this animal will eat all your good luck and you will lose money! haha. It's very weird looking. A long legged elephant.

The fat me.

At the entrance of Universal Studio.

A closer look. All photos taken by mobile phone, so it's not good quality.

That's Woody Wood Pecker!!! We (colleagues) are all going Universal Studio on 14 May! I want to take photos with all the cartoon figures!!
My colleagues were at the ticket counter asking something. I went back to them and said excitedly "I saw Woody Wood Pecker!" And my male colleague said "Let's go and beat the crap out of him." I said "WHy?? So mean!" And then when I told my brother "I saw Woody Wood Pecker and my colleague wanted to beat him." Guess what my brother said? He said "I was about to say the same : go and beat Woody Wood PEcker." But why??? everyone is so mean! hahaha......

Cycling - the 3rd time

It was "health day" in my compnay last Wed. We went cycling at 3pm. Heaven was so cooperative! When we're renting the bicycles, it drizzled a little but didn't really rain. After we returned the bicycle it started drizzling again, not sure if it rained after we left though.

Colleagues, colleagues, colleagues, most of my colleagues are nice~ I like them a lot.

The smallest bicycle was mine. I can't ride the normal adult one, too short... kekekek.... Initially I didn't want to ride, I was scared. But my colleagues were very nice, insisted on waiting for me. And the rental store staff let me tried on the kid's bike before I confirm to rent it. So I tried loh. Good on these good people~ I managed to ride afterall, albeit still wobbly.

It's around 清明节(Tomb sweeping day) and every Chinese knows, it rains during this time, no matter how hot the days had been. And Gab's mother said flowers will bloom around this time, birds will lay eggs, and dragonflies too will lay eggs around this time too~ I think she's right. Look at the flowers!!! A whole tree of pink!! This is Singapore/Malaysia's Sakura flower! Me and my colleague Joyce.

Beautiful right? Another colleague from JB, Lee Ling.

Flower petals are everywhere on the ground~ and they kept falling~ how romantic.

I've never seen a more beautiful East Coast Park.

My colleague said we face too much computer and we had to hug/touch trees to get rid of the bad things from computer. haha.



Nice!~~!
We cycled for 1:30hours only but my butt hurt like there's no tomorrow.... When I learnt cycling it hurt at a different "area". kekeke. This time perhaps I sat incorrectly... It hurt at the tailbone area and I got blister!!!! Seriously! When I shower, Oh My God.... it stung! hahahahaha... 屁股开花。。。。literally... hahahahaha... was a fun day!